Life Reimagined: The Science, Art, and Opportunity of Midlife

When I was in my early 50s, I became quite convinced I was having a midlife crisis. I was an on-air correspondent for National Public Radio — with a partly paralyzed vocal cord that left me without a voice for days or weeks at a time and with chronic pain that dominated my every waking hour. I wondered if my career at NPR had reached its peak as I observed the new opportunities going, understandably, to younger journalists. My stepdaughter was in college, my marriage was stable, but our lives were weighed down with the responsibilities of college tuition and a mortgage, frail parents and high stress jobs. We were too tired to have fun. Then my father died and mother – who was my best friend – suffered a stroke. I saw with sudden clarity that my generation was the next to go.

I had a choice. I could stumble along at the edge of a midlife crisis, or I could reimagine my life. The former was unappealing, the latter fell right in my skill set. My job, as a journalist, is to ask questions and find the answers. The question here was: How do you thrive at midlife? I would tackle this problem like a story on deadline: Call the experts, find the anecdotal stories illustrating the big ideas, and explain how to chart a path to an exceptional midlife.

Happily, the research from psychology, neuroscience, biology, and case studies all points to the same answer. There are concrete steps we can take to make midlife the best time of life. Bring novelty into your marriage, tweak your career to seek meaning rather than mere success, find a new passion, build your friendships — essentially, engage those things that matter with intention and verve. I made my own life a case study, to sometimes comical effect, as my husband and I rented an RV, I began to cycle competitively, and I decided on a completely new trajectory for my career. When I began the research, I was depressed with my station in life. When I finished, I realized I have never been happier. My sincere hope is you come to the same realization. Read an excerpt → 

 

 

 

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About the Author

Melinda Folse is a horse owner who has contributed to “Blueprints “magazine, “Texas Monthly,” and several equine trade publications, and is the coauthor of “Grandmaster.” She lives in Fort Worth, Texas. Clinton Anderson is the author of “Clinton Anderson’s Downunder Horsemanship” and the first horse trainer to launch a made-for-TV weekly training program broadcast on satellite television. He is the owner of a training facility and the winner of both the 2003 and 2005 Road to the Horse competition. He lives in Stephensville, Texas. They are the coauthors of “Clinton”” Anderson’s Lessons Well Learned.”Melinda Folse is a writer based in Fort Worth, Texas, who for the past twenty-something years has considered herself a woman on a mission to write stories that can make a difference. As former senior writer for Clinton Anderson’s Downunder Horsemanship and co-author of his recent bestseller, Lessons Well Learned (Trafalgar Square Books, 2009), she came face-to-face many times (personally and in learning the stories of countless others) with the soul-provoking lessons provided by midlife horsemanship. After a career spent writing the success stories of others, including Grandmaster: A Story of Struggle, Triumph and Taekwondo (about the life of Ninth Degree Taekwondo Grandmaster Won Chik Park), and dozens of America’s top entrepreneurs as Senior Editor and contributing writer of Time Warner’s Millionaire Blueprints Magazine, as well as writing for Cowboys and Indians Magazine, she realized she had a story to tell of her own. Finding herself to be just one among millions of Baby Boomer women who once dreamed of horses and are now recapturing that dream, Melinda let her own struggles do the talking in this tongue-in-cheek account that is a little bit memoir, a little more self-help, a whole lot of practical guidebook, and all heart. This is the book Melinda wishes she had been able to find when she made the bold decision to get back in the saddle at age 45. She lives in Texas with her family that includes two horses who continue to set her straight every single day.
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